Comments on: What about Spanking?

By: Celeste

Celeste — Sat, 28 Oct 2023 16:36:24 +0000

My great nephew who is 3 years old recently visited with his father who is my nephew and his mother. As soon as came into my house he touched the remote to my floor lamps, went outside to play with the door bell numerous times, and touched the buttons on the home base for the cordless phone. He was not spanked nor given time out. They say it is normal behavior for his age. I disagree and felt that swat on the rear with a firm “no” should have been done. Am I wrong with thought?

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Wed, 13 Sep 2023 15:22:34 +0000

In reply to John. It's awful - and yes, inherently sexual.

By: John

John — Sat, 02 Sep 2023 21:13:44 +0000

In reply to Jen. Adrian Peterson stripped his 4yo son completely naked and whipped the little boy's bare penis with a switch until it bled! Now look me in the eye and tell me with a straight face this wasn't sexual. Of course it was. Whipping a little girl's bare vulva is sexual too.

By: Anne

Anne — Thu, 06 Jul 2023 02:19:09 +0000

In reply to Jen. Yes it is, especially if your parents make you get completely naked and whip your bare private parts.

By: Jen

Jen — Sun, 10 Apr 2022 19:48:18 +0000

Whether it’s intended to be or not, spanking is also a form of sexual abuse.

By: Brit

Brit — Mon, 10 Aug 2020 17:59:01 +0000

In reply to Michael. Wow -- thank you for this powerful personal story and insight, Michael. We so agree with you, and so appreciate you weighing in. With children at home more than ever before on account of the pandemic, this is feels even more urgent right now.

By: Michael

Michael — Sun, 09 Aug 2020 11:23:45 +0000

As a black man (soon to turn 50 this year), I can tell you that I am still unpacking and coming to terms with my own trauma as a child abuse survivor. I have said for years, “When you hit a child, you teach a child to hit.” The message you receive is that THIS is how you resolve conflict. You assault someone. I was afraid my whole childhood…afraid of everyone and everything. As a result of this culturalized curse, I have experienced (among other things) heightened aggression, hypervigilance (look it up) and what seems to be an ever-emerging social anxiety. These days, it seems the only time people are concerned about child abuse is if it is of a sexual nature.
Children have died from physical abuse at the hands of their own families for generations. Most people have no idea unless I get to know them enough to discuss it. Thank you for the platform to even say these things. I say to the black and Christian communities: Jesus never hit anybody. Stop assaulting your children.

By: John Wilwerding

John Wilwerding — Sun, 15 Mar 2020 02:02:15 +0000

In reply to Meg Collins. Thank you for allowing me to post this in public, I'd give my right arm to have this knowledge understood as a reason to ban all spanking of children!

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Mon, 24 Feb 2020 21:34:26 +0000

In reply to John Wilwerding. Thank you for this very candid comment. We did not explore this aspect of spanking, but yes, it's certainly another reason not to!

By: John Wilwerding

John Wilwerding — Sun, 23 Feb 2020 17:21:21 +0000

I have taken the time to study my own damage from spanking begging only in mid life after my mother passed away. I’d been drawn to compulsive desires to be spanked, a form of sexual masochism even before my mother had stopped spanking me. I learned that this behavior is the result of sexual arousal occurring of me as a child who was too young to understand what it was that was happening as my mother ritually was disrobing me partially for my punishment. This desire only became stronger as I matured. With the advent of the internet I learned other adults had this same desire and sadly many were parents who believed spanking their children was harmless. The fact is human culture has socially reached a point where it is not accepted consenting adults can engage in spanking as a part of their intimate sexual life. Sadly these same adults carry this intergenerational sexual addiction with spanking by finding consciously in some cases and subconsciously in many others a degree of motivation beyond discipline that provides them sexual gratification in complete privacy and with total moral criminal immunity an auxiliary reason to spank their children. While this behavior seems astonishing to the public it is secretly more common than anyone wishes to admit. I suffered the same cultural conditioning that led me to spontaneously spanking my first born child, my son once or twice, but it was not a drawn out ritualized punishment with nudity of any kind. My own self awareness of my masochistic problem convinced me to end that as discipline technique and I never touched my son or younger daughters after that day. This damaging side effect of sexual damage of children from spanking is rarely mentioned by professional health care and mental health care workers, it’s too controversial and almost universally denied. Please add this mental health problem to your reason to end all spanking of children, they deserved to have their own sexual development be free from parental influence and live without this common secret form of sexual addiction!