Comments on: Twins Fighting: How to Manage Squabbles and Maintain Sanity

By: Anam

Anam — Mon, 12 Jun 2023 20:35:11 +0000

Oh my goodness thank you for this article.I spend most of my days mediating.My twin girls are 8 years now and oh boy they are showing me flames.I put them to sleep and googled for help and cane across this article.Thank you for the insight oh dear now I understand how they may be feeling!

By: Kellsie

Kellsie — Sat, 10 Jun 2023 15:09:34 +0000

I have two sets of twin girls and two older singleton girls and this has been such an eye opener! I can not wait to implement all of these things and hopefully see some real progress in all of them.

By: Marissa

Marissa — Mon, 02 May 2022 17:45:32 +0000

In reply to Emily. You are welcome!! Good luck (I need it too ;-)

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 01 May 2022 14:50:00 +0000

My twin boys are 9 and just had a huge epic fight that ended with me throwing my phone on the floor in anger. I Googled “stress meltdown twins fighting” and came across your article. The “There can only be one” meme made me laugh out loud. I needed that—thank you!

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 04 May 2021 06:47:17 +0000

Thank you for taking time and truly explaining this article topic. My girls are sixteen months old, and we are in the first stage of squabbles. I admire each parents’ method mentioned. Especially the “calm down corner.” I encourage my girls to hold hands or hug frequently throughout the day. Reminding them how much they love each other, and saying, ” awe, you love each other.” It’s our way of taking a step back and seeing the other one individually without any distractions. I look forward on this twin journey to applying some of these techniques. I greatly appreciated reading your blog.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Wed, 17 Feb 2021 20:50:06 +0000

I have made it a priority to individualize my boys, but I never really thought about having 2 birthday cakes and singing twice! We have always referred to them by their individual names and not, “the twins.” They are 11 now and the sibling rivalry is so frustrating. It seems they make it a priority to push each others buttons which then leads to something physical. Any thoughts or insight from anyone else?

By: Marissa

Marissa — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 18:46:00 +0000

In reply to Holly. Awesome! So glad you enjoyed it.

By: Marissa

Marissa — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 18:45:42 +0000

In reply to DLaubo. Thank you SO much for these amazing suggestions -- you certainly have experience, being a twin and raising twins! I really love your notion that each child should have his/her own possessions, birthday cakes, etc. Thank you!

By: Holly

Holly — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 05:45:33 +0000

This article was insightful and helpful, thank you! Looking p forward to creating the kindness jars and ensuring I spend 1:1 time with each more often.

By: DLaubo

DLaubo — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 03:06:25 +0000

As an identical twin myself, who has fraternal twin boys, I would like to add to this, when it comes to possession and identity.
Let your twins OWN their own things, be it toys, clothes, whatever, and allow them not to share if they don’t want to. The thing about being a twin and having to share since day one is not having the individuality to own our own possessions, including owning our own identity is crippling. Giving the opportunity to own possessions as an individual and have that be OKAY I would say is important. We
That, and two birthday cakes, sing happy birthday twice.