First, I’ll tell you what the following reset is NOT: it’s not about reducing screen time (necessarily); it’s not about judging anyone or any family over how they choose to use screens; and it’s not about telling you what to do. (We’re also not going to touch “work,” because all of us are on screens for work and there’s not really much we can do about that…) 

Instead, these ten days are part of our team’s collective effort to recall some of the central messages from our article on Reconsidering Screen Time in Real Life, including that screen time is not implicitly bad and not all screen time is equal. 

If you’re up for joining along, the reset is:

• an opportunity to reflect on our use and engagement with screens without passing judgment;
• the chance to consider what’s serving us and what’s not;
• a reminder to take note of how screens may (or may not) affect our mood, space, attention, parenting, relationship dynamics, and sleep;
• focused more on us parents than our children — because it’s not just about the rules/limits we set for them, it’s about the example WE set and the culture of our entire household. 

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Here’s how it works: First of all, subscribe above! You’ll receive a daily email over the next 10 days with a small, bite-sized task. Each day, we’ll all focus on a small, achievable task.

During the first half of the reset, each daily activity will be focused on “auditing” screen use; this segment will be more about taking notice of and reflecting on screens in your space and everyday life (think: set a timer for an hour and count how many times you check your phone… why did you?).

The second five days are more about active management and offer new “try this at home” activities each day to help you move toward a mindful, meaningful approach to screens (think: pick a time block to make entirely screen free — what happens?). Oh — and I should mention: I’ve thrown in a lot of tweets from parents on this topic (see below), because they are straight *hilarious. You’re welcome.

We hope you decide to join us — we can’t wait.

Day 1: Conduct a Screen Survey

Welcome to part one of the ten-day Screen Time Reset, friends. We’re so happy you’re joining us. We’re going to keep these daily pieces *short and bite-sized, folks, because… Life Is Busy. Also, I fully grasp the irony that all of you are reading this on a screen, just as I am writing at/on a screen… 





Anyhoo… 

These first five days are about observation and reflection. We’re asking you to carve out some time every day to answer some questions about screens in your life. If you want an A+, grab a notebook and write down your answers.

Everything we’ll be doing this week is about getting to the bottom of this question: What are your current habits and, more importantly, what do you want your own, your child’s, and your family’s engagement with screens to look like? 

This very first day, here’s the task at hand: 

Conduct a Screen Survey

Walk around your home and make note of the following:

• Where are the screens in your home? 
• What is each screen’s purpose?
• Who has/is in control of each one? 
• Are they typically used daily? When, and for about how long? 
• Are any of them the source of frequent disputes? 

That’s it! (This is easy, right?!) I’d encourage you to go a bit further and spend a few minutes reflecting on whether you like where the screens are in your space, and whether their placement is serving you (and your family). For example, is your work computer setup somewhere where you can actually focus and work? Is your family television where you want it? Is there a shared iPad that is the source of constant fighting?

Obviously, many of our devices are mobile now, so your phone or your tablet or even your laptop are not “set” in any one place — but consider if they were, where would you want them to primarily be? 

Congratulations on making the commitment to rethink your own screen use and to getting started today — we’ll see you tomorrow for day two… and let’s try to end these things with a laugh, shall we? 
 

Day 2: Conduct a One-Day Screen Audit

Today is a doozy so I’ll get right to it (if you’re reading this at night, do this tomorrow):

Conduct a One-Day Screen Audit

Focus throughout the day on each time you engage with a screen (I’d tell you to keep a log, but we don’t have forever, people… Personally, I’m planning to just make general notes). 
 

The idea here is less to count how many times you are on/using a screen than it is to pay attention to each separate engagement. Here are the kinds of things we’re going to hone in on: 

• What are you doing on the screen? (And for that matter, are you actually doing something?) 
• What else is going on around you? 
• Are you multitasking with (or on) a screen? Entertaining yourself? Are you distracting yourself? (From what?)
• Is the screen use displacing something else? What? 
• Do you need to do what you’re doing on a screen? (Right now?)

If you really want something to count, here’s one: How many times today do you pick up your phone (yes… even, and especially, when it doesn’t ping)? [Cringes] See you tomorrow, friends… 

Day 3: Review Your Sample

You already made it through the “worst” of part one, folks — the audit is kind of… weird, right? Today, we’ll simply be contemplating our findings from yesterday. The idea is to review your sample slice and determine what you think is serving you and what isn’t.

What do you want to stay the same? What (if anything) would you like to change? And why?

The easiest way to go about this, I think, is to literally make a list of engagements that you are comfortable with continuing on screens and of ones that you aren’t. I like the idea of thinking about it in terms of: What’s serving you? What’s enriching your life and lived experience? 
 

For me, just as an example, (parts of) my lists look something like this:

Things I did yesterday on my screen that I’m good with: 

• Talk to my sister on the phone
• Listen to my audiobook 
• Order pants for my son
• Stream a yoga class
• Play music on Spotify 
• Take pictures at art group 
• Send pictures from art group to my mom and dad

Things I did yesterday on my screen that I’m not so good with: 

• Check my email like a crack addict (I was waiting to hear back news about a trip I’m trying to plan… Still)
• Check the news on the NYT app while also serving my kids a snack after school
• Play Wordle while my kids are eating dinner 
• Catch up on email/news at night, in bed, right before trying to go to sleep (GAH)

**Remember: this is all^^ TOTALLY subjective. Everyone is going to have completely different ideas about what kinds of screen use serves them vs. what is “detrimental.” One person may see scrolling through social media as inspirational, while for another it’s just a form of distraction (or worse, comparison). The same goes for any number of other activities: watching a TV show, spending time hunting for recipes, looking at old pictures on your phone, etc. Don’t worry about what “sounds” better/worse — just think about YOU. 

Day 4: Your Kids & Screens

Today we get to briefly step out of the spotlight and take a closer look at how our children use digital technology.

Take a few minutes sometime today to answer the following questions:

• When does your child typically use screens?
• What does she do with/on them? 
• How does she act around screens, and how does she behave after they’re turned off? 

If you’re feeling ambitious, I’d encourage you to also reflect on whether there are any changes you’d like to make to your children’s use of screens — and while this might be a measure of time (i.e., less of it), it also might not (e.g. no YouTube videos). In fact, as we’ll learn tomorrow, time spent on a screen is far less important than what is done with a screen. 

But at the outset: are there things you’d like to change about how your child interacts with screens?

(One piece of my answer to this question^: No Mickey Mouse. Just, stop.)

Again: No judgment here. Just think about what you think is enriching your child’s experience vs. what may be causing issues (however you define them). 
 

Day 5: Homework (A Reading Assignment)

Today you have an old-fashioned homework assignment: read one section of our team’s article about reconsidering screen time. If you’re a teacher’s pet brand of student you can certainly read the whole thing (A+!), but since it’s on the lengthy side, we decided to make this a choose-your-own adventure kind of assignment: 

Behind Door A: How Much Should We Worry About Screens? — This section explores three reasons it’s worth thinking at all about screens with our kids and in our homes, and offers a tactical guide to deciding what you think about screens for your family. 

Behind Door B: Thinking Through Screen Time — This segment walks through nine considerations that can help you come to better understand your approach to screens — and in some cases, control them — in your home. (Spoiler alert, number 9 is to reconsider your own use of screens, especially in front of your children.) 

Annnnd if you really just don’t have the time and it’s been one of those days, you’ll still get credit for the assignment if you just want to take a peek at our concluding thoughts, which sum up the highlights. 

Otherwise, relax and enjoy what remains of the weekend, everyone. We’ll see you back here tomorrow for the fun part.

Day 6: Pretend Your Smartphone is a Landline

Hello, everyone! We hope you had a nice weekend and had the chance to spend a few minutes reflecting on everything we started last week.

This week we’ll be focusing on different strategies for approaching and using screens more mindfully — it will be a sort of choose your own adventure kind of enterprise, so that’s fun.

Each day, we’ll be highlighting one single trick you can try out. There’s no right or wrong way to do anything, and if you can’t partake, we’ll try to offer an alternative where we can. 

If you opt in, we encourage you to try to follow through with the strategy for the full day, and then spend some time thinking about what you liked/didn’t. Keep in mind that many of the tactics this week appear as though they are all about “minimizing” screen time, but that’s not exactly what we’re after… it’s more nuanced than that.



What we’re aiming for, together, is a more mindful, conscious daily engagement with screens that we feel serves us and our families and that models the kinds of behavior we’d like to see in our children as they grow up. It’s not about less, per se. It’s about intention.

So — if something works for you, think about trying it another day, or another after that. Maybe always. If something doesn’t, don’t sweat it… Just do keep in mind that some of this stuff might come along with a certain “breaking in period” — parting from our devices feels *uncomfortable at first, but it gets easier. (I was reminded of this recently when I forgot to bring my phone to my kids’ swim lessons (GASP) — I totally freaked out when I realized it. Then I reminded myself that it really didn’t matter, it was fine. Annnnd I still felt kind of freaked out, LOL.)

Alright… now, down to business. Here’s the charge for this first day: 

Decide on a keeping place for your phone at home — choose mindfully. 

Writers, creatives, and psychologists who’ve studied “the digital attention economy,” as it were, tell us that the more we have easy access to our devices, the more likely we are to check them. I don’t know about you, but when my phone is within reach I check it ALL THE TIME, for no real reason whatsoever. It’s just a habit, and honestly it is not serving me. It’s a constant distraction, and when my kids are around, I know they see me checking it unnecessarily.

Today, we’re asking everyone to pretend your iPhone is a landline. Put it somewhere that’s centrally located but not too convenient, such that you have to go even a little bit out of your way to access it – a phone “base” of sorts. The simple act of relocating your device is very, very likely to reduce your non-purposeful phone use.

Feels weird, right?

*One thing to consider — think back to some of your answers from last week, and make sure not to put your phone somewhere where you specifically don’t want to be subconsciously checking it. And it might actually be different spaces at different times of the day.

For example, I keep my phone in the kitchen during my workday, where I know I can still hear if my kids’ school calls (say), but it’s not at my desk or even in my office, which seriously cuts down on distractions. When my kids come home in the afternoon, I move my phone landing place to the hallway, because if my phone is in the kitchen I am guaranteed to be on it while I am supposedly talking with my kids, feeding them, etc. (In case you haven’t picked up on this yet, this is a major sticking point for me…)

Now — and this is the fun part, friends — tell someone about your experience at the end of the day. Just chatting about it will also probably help you reflect on how it all went. 

See you tomorrow… 

Day 7: Use a Nudge

You’re over halfway through this shindig. Congrats! 

How was yesterday? If you’re feeling courageous, think about repeating the Pretend Your Smartphone is a Landline activity.

Here’s what’s up for today:

Implement a nudge factor for your child’s screen. 

The goal is — like yesterday — not necessarily to minimize your child’s use but to do something to ensure that said use is purposeful. What you choose to do will depend on your current screen habits as a family as well as your child’s age, so pick what you think will resonate most. (If there’s one you’re most scared to do, maybe that’s the one… just saying.)

BTW, a “nudge,” as we mean it, is some kind of small intervention that’s intended to alter behavior without necessarily forcing anything upon anyone. Typically, these are changes that make desirable behaviors more convenient (i.e., automatic enrollment in a retirement savings plan) and undesirable behaviors less convenient (i.e., there are no cookies in the pantry). To a certain extent, everything we’re doing all week is about using nudges to arrange our environment and alter our habits toward more mindful screen use.

Here are some options for today:

• Store tablets/devices “away”/out of reach (out of sight, out of mind)
• Keep background screen media turned OFF all day 
• Hide the television remote
• Set up a parent passcode for a device 
• Disconnect screen time from sedentary time and/or eating — meaning, “rule out” seated, stationary screen use and/or do not allow screens to be used in conjunction with eating 
• Limit screen content to ideal content for young children 
• Set up Screentime controls and limitations on your child’s device

If there’s something else you know will accomplish our desired goal of making our children’s screen use more purposeful, go for it! Don’t feel confined to our list…

As always, spend a few minutes looking back on your nudge factor at the end of the day. How did it go? How did your child respond? How did you respond? What might you want to carry over? 

Day 8: No Screens (Right) Before Bed

Good morning, fellow parents! Today’s challenge is simple (hah!): 

Put all screens away one hour before bedtime — AND DON’T LOOK BACK. 

This applies to both you and your kids (obviously you may have different “cut off” times). 

As we wrote in our longform article: Studies consistently show — across device platforms, activities, and age groups — that screen media use is associated with reduced sleep quality and quantity… The more time people spend on screens (babies and young children included), the worse they sleep. Exposure to screens is associated with more irregular sleep schedules, overall less sleep, and delayed onset of sleep (i.e., it takes longer to fall asleep). 

These effects^^ are worse as screen use creeps closer to bedtime, which is why experts (like the American Academy of Pediatrics) recommend avoiding screens altogether at least one hour prior to bedtime. 

Thus, tonight: 

Cut your kids off from screens at least one hour before you start their bedtime.

Cut yourself off from your phone/laptop/Netflix/etc. one hour prior to when you usually head to bed.

For me, this^^ is SO HARD. I recently slipped into the habit of checking the news and my email on my iPhone right as I get into bed, usually reading a story or two right before I turn out the light, and I know it’s a terrible idea.

I know I shouldn’t even bring my phone up with me — I should leave it downstairs for the night, duh — but since my phone doubles as my alarm clock, I fall victim every evening. 

There are two solutions I see (if you face a similar problem):

1. Plug the phone in *immediately across the room or somewhere inconvenient right when I head up to bed (no taking it in to look at while I’m brushing my teeth, etc.). 

2. (Probably the better option) Kick it old school and buy a real alarm clock (OMG). I’m very picky about alarm clocks because I require complete darkness to fall asleep and I also wake frequently in the night (perhaps thanks to my pre-bedtime screen habit??) and am guaranteed to never fall asleep again if I happen to catch the time (it doesn’t matter what the time is, if I see it, it’s game over). My colleague Charlene recommends this alarm clock for similar sleepers, and we also like this light-to-wake alarm clock for a gentler, more evolutionary approach to the old-school sound alarm. (PS — another way to think of the challenge today is: no screens in the bedroom.) 

Sleep well, friends. 

Day 9: Review Your Notifications & Settings

How was last night?? 

I wanted to check the news SO BADLY. Ugh. (It was still there this morning.)

It was hard, though, and to be honest I didn’t sleep great. Maybe tomorrow; I’m trying again.

Today, we’ll be shifting back to daylight endeavors.

Here’s our charge:

Take a few minutes to review (overhaul?) your notifications and device settings. 

At the risk of being redundant: the purpose is to reduce unnecessary screen engagement. This will look different for everyone — some of us may need the notifications for X app turned on for work, or need to have certain notifications come through for family or school or what have you. Don’t worry about what you “should” do and just think about what makes sense for you. 

Here are some ideas you may consider:

• Delete apps you don’t want/need to use on your device 
• Turn on “screen time” on your phone to track what you’re using 
• Set a shorter lock time and/or a longer password to get onto your device
• Change your notifications settings to only receive updates for the things you really need in real time. For iPhone users, take advantage of the different “focus” modes that let you personalize your notification settings exactly to your day-to-day habits. 
• Close browsers/apps/email when not *actively in use. (I started setting certain “email windows” for myself which has been both very difficult to keep to but also very wonderful. As an “inbox 0 addict,” it’s very challenging for me to refrain from checking my email all the time, but setting certain times of the day when I am “allowed” to check my email has both greatly reduced unnecessary distractions and also improved my response efficiency (no more “I’ll email back about that later” and then forgetting…). 
• For the brave among you: many experts recommend turning your phone to grayscale to reduce use — I just can’t do this because a huge piece of how I use my phone is to take pictures of my kids… but if you can stomach it, I salute you.

What other ideas do you have? 

Day 10: Make a Screen-Free Zone

Alright, it’s the final day of our screen time reset, and we actually have two assignments for you — one is our daily challenge and the other is more of a long-term endeavor… 

Today: Implement a screen-free zone/space or a screen-free block of time at home, and see how it works. 

This, like so much of what we’ve done together all week, can be incredibly difficult, but everyone I know who’s tried it has in the end found it quite refreshing. Pay attention to how your family engages differently during/in the designated space/time (or doesn’t, hah!). (Personally, I like making this some kind of shared space (i.e., the living room, the kitchen, the dining room, etc.), but lots of people say the bathroom is actually a sneakily challenging spot to pick, LOL!)

If you are feeling extra ambitious on this final day, you might even extend your “ban” to some specific activity that tends to pull screens from pockets outside the home as well, such as waiting in line or waiting for appointments, school drop-off/pick-up, waiting at the bus stop, during art group, etc. etc. (My favorite: do not look at a screen when someone is speaking to you.)

As always, take note of how this^ influences you and your family. That time — the time to notice and reflect and consider — is the most important piece. By far.

And that’s what we are hoping (and tasking!) you to take with you beyond this isolated period of contemplating screens.

If we really want to reset, we need to bring some of the last ten days with us. We need not keep/use/adopt every single strategy we’ve tried on for size — indeed I doubt we should — but it’s worth thinking about what worked and what didn’t, what you found most difficult and why, and what you want for your family moving forward. 

I, for one, am more aware than ever (to an uncomfortable degree) of my own involvement with devices — both for better and for worse — and perhaps even more importantly, am more cognizant than ever of what I am modeling for my children.

More than I care about my actual use of any device, I care that my children see me checking my phone at the first sign of boredom, or that I am tapping away while they are eating, or glancing at something while they are speaking to me. This is the kind of screen use that makes me cringe, and this is what I really want to change — so those are the factors I’m choosing to focus on moving forward. 

Where are you, and what do you want?

I doubt this has been very much fun for anyone, but I sincerely hope it’s been constructive for at least some of you — thanks for doing it together with us, and we’d love to hear from you. 

Be well, friends, and good luck resetting.

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It was annoying at first — oh, how I missed my sweaty vinyasas — but I’ve since come to adore exercising at home. Among its many benefits: no commute, no class sign-up, no having to hire babysitters to watch my kids (on top of the hundreds of dollars it costs to attend in-studio classes), no needing to stick to one particular brand/program, and 100% flexibility.

The way I see it, a 30-45 minute workout in my home takes just that, plus maybe 5-10 minutes of set-up or cool down. In-person classes are usually ~60 minutes, plus you have to arrive early and get there/back — it often adds up to 1.5 hours. I wish I did, but I just don’t have the time anymore…

Of course, home fitness is not perfect — for some, the very aspects I see as benefits may in fact be detrimental, and you do lose the community aspect — but it’s hard to deny that the expanded access to any number of online exercise platforms is very convenient for us parents.

I’ve found, too, that having some basic equipment on hand makes a BIG difference. Here are our favorites — the day-to-day staples first, followed by some optional bigger ticket items (low-key machines, more expensive equipment, and what have you) that are not for the feint of heart.

At-Home Exercise Equipment: The Everyday Basics

Handheld Weight Set ~$54

These light handheld weights (a set of 3, 5, and 8 pounds) are perfect for simple arm exercises, and I love the organizational rack that comes along with them. The material also doesn’t hurt or smell weird, as many metal weights do.

Mini Loop Resistance Band Set ~$9

These little bands make for a brutal burn. I especially love them for floor exercises like leg lifts/circles. Comes with a light, medium, and heavy band — I don’t think I’ve ever used anything but medium, hah!

Hardwood Gliders ~$14

Many fitness programs are starting to incorporate sliders into their routines, and these are a fan-fave for hardwood floors. You can also purchase the carpeted version, and *pro-tip, you can always use a little washcloth or a paper plate if you are working on a shoestring budget.

SPRI Long Resistance Band/Cord ~$15

A classic strength training piece of equipment, this is a great alternative to actual weights if you don’t have much space — and it’s also handy for travel.

Foam Roller ~$28

I did not understand why everyone and their mom was talking about foam rolling — until I tried it. It hurts so good! This soft roller from Gaiam is beloved; but if you’re a glutton for pain, this textured roller is also… an experience. Be prepared for wincing.

A Good Yoga Mat

Yoga Accessories Yoga Mat ~$29 — Economy Pick

This long plushy yoga mat is the best. Mine has held up for years and years — including abuse from kids and dogs when I inevitably forget to roll it up and put it away — and still is as plush as when it was brand new.

LuluLemon The Mat ~$98 — Splurge

The ultimate yoga mat — it’s not called The Mat for nothing, friends — this mat has a rubber top that is seriously slip-proof. If you are a serious yogi, or you exercise in the heat, this mat might change your life.

Jump Rope ~$9

Every time I jump rope I: 1) have nostalgic flashbacks to elementary school gym class, and 2) cannot BELIEVE how hard it is. If you want to spike your heart rate in approximately seven seconds, start jumping. *Note — this rope has an adjustable length but it may be too short for folks >6′. Bonus tip: give it to your (older) kid and watch them tire out like a puppy.

Space Heater ~$36

I can no longer imagine exercising in an actual hot room (I know, all you Southerners may laugh at me…), but I still love to crank up my space heater when I’m doing yoga — or if it’s just the winter, because my house is an icebox from December through… May.

Adjustable Ankle Weights ~$29

Ankle weights turn up the volume on everything, (including cleaning the house, hah). IMO, they can literally completely transform your normal workout — and they’re actually quite the added challenge even while walking.

Exercise Ball ~$10

These 9″ exercise balls are an awesome prop to have around for various mat exercises and core/stability work. My kids constantly sneak mine down to their playroom, though…

Stability Ball ~$32

Speaking of exercise balls… a giant stability ball is another wonderful add-on to a home gym set-up. Many ab moves are more gentle on your back with these, and they can moonlight as office chairs. I love mine so much.

Kettlebell ~ $17+

I’m sure you know about the importance of weight training. A single kettlebell can get you very far in life, friends. Yes, if you had to pick just one thing… this might be it. I love the 25 pounder for women. Perfect for squats, deadlifts, and kettlebell swings. Your butt will thank you.

Swag

Hoka Sneaks ~$140

Yes — these are an investment, but everyone is literally raving about these shoes, and they have the seal of approval from the American Podiatric Medical Association. They’re lightweight and full cushion — take their shoe finder quiz to see which pair is your match.

Straw Top Water Bottle ~$16

I’m very finicky about my drink ware (#glass.snob) but I really like a straw top water bottle when I’m working out — it’s so much easier to take quick sips between reps and I find I actually drink so much more when I use this bottle compared to my screw top Hydroflask or a simple cup.

A Music Sitch ~$varies

We have a Sonos system set up around our house (which I highly recommend), but a more wallet-friendly option that also is perfect for travel and beach outings is the Wonderboom bluetooth speaker. It’s got a big sound and all kinds of toddler-proof features, because spills happen. While you’re at it, renew your favorite music subscription/platform (I use Spotify) and make yourself a killer playlist. There is *nothing like working out to great music.

At-Home Exercise Equipment: The Bigger Ticket Stuff

Bosu Balance Trainer ~$130

You can use this exercise dome for all kinds of different strength training moves, including, yes, abs. *6-pack not included.

Escape Fitness Deck ~$160

This basic aerobic step has adjustable height and also features a small storage compartment. Lastly, you can prop up the top so the whole thing can function as a workout bench for various seated exercises.

TRX Training System ~$179

I (Meg) discovered TRX during COVID, and it was an absolute lifesaver. If you love body-weight strength training, look no further than TRX. It will give you a rock-hard ass (no lie) when you follow the app for workouts. All you need is a door frame or an overhead bar from which to hang it. Enjoy!

JumpSport Cardio Rebounder ~$260

Yes, this is a mini-trampoline. It’s great for a fun cardio burst and also for keeping your toddlers busy. Both are equally valuable.

Bowflex SelectTech Adjustable Dumbbells ~$549 (often on sale for $429)

These space-saving adjustable weights are great for heavier lifting strength training — which is an often-overlooked but SUPER important slice of fitness for women (aging, health, bone density, physique, etc.). See also: a watered down/lighter weight version for up to 25 lbs ($109 for a single weight).

Concept 2 Rowing Machine ~$900

<<Now this is a home gym!!

This is the creme de la creme of rowers, friends — it’s the top choice for gyms and fitness clubs. Rowing is a great low-impact cardio workout that also is fantastic for your back and upper body. The repetitive movements are also quite meditative… & if you can sync up your playlist to a certain BPM it’s just the best.

Peloton ~$1,495

The bike that needs no introduction… I think everyone I know has one of these, and I’m stuck listening to them tell me how awesome it is practically every time we talk. (Psst: Did you know? You can also use the Peloton app with a different [cough, cheaper] exercise bike if this isn’t within your means.)

SmartGyms: The Mirror and Tonal ~ $1,295+

Welcome to a new generation of SmartGyms, thanks in part to COVID and advances in technology. These two systems are quite different from one another…

The Mirror is a reflective smart screen that allows you to virtually pop into a wide variety of workout classes, while Tonal places an emphasis on strength and resistance training. When not in use the Mirror is, well… a mirror.  You can either mount it to the wall or have it on a stand, which is good for renters. Tonal, on the other hand, looks like a TV when not in use.

Mirror offers unlimited live and on-demand workout classes across 50 categories, including kickboxing, dance cardio, arms and abs, and restorative yoga. You can also get personal training, which allows the instructor to observe you and provide feedback.

Tonal’s big feature is its built-in digital weight system, which offers up to 200 pounds of resistance. Tonal can even “sense” that you are struggling with a set and will bring down the weight to help prevent strain or injury.

*Both of these products require a monthly membership ($39/month for The Mirror & $49/month for Tonal), so don’t forget to factor that into your equation.

Obviously, these two SmartGyms are big investments, but an incredible step forward in home fitness. As one friend joked, she’d rather spend her money on staying fit and happy rather than on big healthcare costs down the road… a valid point!

Thanks for reading, all. Hope you find something that keeps you fit and happy this year.

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If you, too, are struggling with a purchase for a friend or family member (or what to ask for yourself!), check out this gift guide. There’s something for every budget and matriarch on your radar. See also: the Love List archive.

Bouqs

Flowers instantly brighten any mom’s day and serve as a beautiful reminder of her unwavering strength and grace (at least for a few days! hahaha). This year, we are loving Bouqs custom stems. Get $20 off with code LOVEMOM.

Bonnie and Pop Chocolate Tin ~ $36

Chocolates via Amazon Prime delivery: yes please! This chocolate tin is a great last-minute gift.

Knack Gift Boxes

Curate the perfect box of goodies for your favorite lady. Knack allows you to buy pre-selected gift bundles or create/customize your own. Their selection is vast — including anything from beauty and spa-esque products, to wine and food, to office and stationary essentials.

Calpak Toiletry Bag ~ $56

For the jetsetters who like to stay organized, this toiletry bag features a water resistant interior, a collapsing hanging hook and an exterior toothbrush stand. Keeping your bathroom must-haves clean, dry and easy to access has never been easier.

Luggage

You guys – Macy’s is having the craziest sale on luggage right now! I just partook. Samsonite, TravelPro, Delsey and more. Inspire her to get out there with a beautiful brand new suitcase.

Memories

Mixbook ~ $varies

I *love receiving photo albums as gifts because I loathe putting them together (although, I’ve recently developed a new picture “strategy” that’s helping…). Mixbook makes great, high quality albums with various thematic options (recipes?! it’s perfect!) that are relatively painless to design.

Storyworth ~ $99

This platform sends participants weekly prompts and uses their responses (plus any photos provided) to make a beautiful memory book at the end of the year.

Aura WiFi Digital Picture Frame ~ $149

I ordered this digital picture frame for my own mother for Mother’s Day… and wound up keeping it for myself. Oops! (Don’t worry: I’m still gifting her one, too!) It’s the best thing ever; I keep it in the kitchen, and my kids and I never tire of watching the endless stream of family photos.

HOKA Clifton 9 Running Shoes ~ $145

These sneakers are quite possibly the most supportive option out there, and they’ve got the American Podiatric Medical Association (APMA) Seal of Acceptance. Seriously the best gift you could give your fave lady’s feet!

Zwillin Glass Tea Kettle ~ $140

Tea lovers, be ready! This kettle features a stainless steel steeper to prepare loose leaf tea. We love the sleek design as well — it’ll look so good on your kitchen countertop.

Mane Thermal Round Brush ~ $98

Get the blowout look without the blow out time (or cost). With this thermal round brush by Mane, you’ll get volume at the root and perfectly loose waves.

AeroGarden Countertop Herb Garden ~ $99

This hydroponic garden kit is super easy to use and comes with basil, dill, parsley, mint, and thyme seed starters. The visual of greenery in the kitchen is so homey and refreshing… and many users actually complain that the greens grow *too fast, LOL. For more sizes/pricing options, see here.

Rothy’s Lightweight Tote ~ $185

I am not really a bag person but I *love this bag. It screams summer and it’s just so cool. Easy, breezy, beautiful. It’s a great size for everyday life, grocery runs or weekend trips; it comes in a lot of fun colors.

For moms who love getting/giving jewelry (me!)…

Parker Layering Set ~ $108

The casual simplicity of Gorjana speaks to me. I’ve had one of their necklaces for two years, and it’s aged very well. Designed in California, these pieces are perfect for summer.

Kendra Scott Sophia Drop Earrings ~ $55

I love Kendra Scott so very much. These drop earrings can be dressed up or down and have beautiful little details. Perfect for day-to-day work or play.

Bearaby Knitted Weighted Blanket~ $76

This is not your typical weighted blanket — these organic cotton blankets are hand-knit, super soft and breathable. The chunky-knit weighted napper doesn’t just feel good (and help to reduce stress… ), but it will also look beautiful on your bed or sofa.

Kitsch Hair Quick-Dry Towel ~ $19

This chic, super soft Microfiber Hair Towel, available in a few gorgeous designs, will take your shower routine to the next level! It actually stays in place (hooray!). But best of all? It really helps your hair dry faster, believe us. (Also available on Amazon.)

Stanley Quencher H2.0 ~ $45

Stanley: to know him is to love him. Bring mom into the 21st century with the 40oz (or smaller size) Quencher H2.0. Available in all the colors of the rainbow. Note: delivery date depends on which color and size you select.

Happy Mother’s Day to us and ours!

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Even if this is not you, many find the transition to new parenthood to be challenging; from lack of sleep and time to take care of yourself, to adopting the new role of mom or dad and how that can shift one’s sense of self and identity, to losing a sense of freedom and the ability to be spontaneous, to the changes new parenthood can bring to friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, marriages, and so much more, new parents often need — and deserve — extra TLC and support. 

That’s why we’ve put together this roundup of some of our favorite, tried-and-true books on postpartum mental health for new parents, including how to manage postpartum mood and anxiety disorders. We hope these books can provide you, dear new parents, with an abundance of comfort, guidance and support. Without further ado, here’s our list of books for new parents:

Books for New Parents on Postpartum Mood and Anxiety Disorders

This Isn’t What I Expected by Karen Kleiman, M.S.W. & Valerie Davis Raskin, MD

Written by Karen Kleiman, MSW, director of the renowned Postpartum Stress Center (highly encourage you to check out this organization!), and Dr. Valerie Davis Raskin, psychiatrist and co-founder of the Pregnancy and Postpartum Treatment Program at the University of Illinois at Chicago College of Medicine, this book is a Godsend in helping you identify if you may be struggling with a perinatal mood disorder, and when it’s time to seek professional help. Throughout the course of this book, you’ll learn how to manage the often-debilitating effects of PPD, such as panic attacks, obsessive-compulsive thoughts and urges, negative thinking, and more. It also offers guidance for partners, family and friends on how to be supportive and helpful to the new parent who is struggling. 

Good Moms have Bad Days: Understanding Postpartum Mood Disorders by Eren Simpson

Just because you are suffering from a perinatal mood disorder, and/or may not find every moment of motherhood joy-filled and exhilarating, does not mean you are a bad mom. In fact, you are a good mom who is doing the best you can — and you need and deserve some support. 

According to author Eren Simpson, “This book is intended to arm women and their families with the knowledge they need about what is happening to their minds and bodies during the postpartum period. This book includes information about treatment options, stories from survivors, plus research and movements being conducted across the country to make mental health and maternal mental health a priority.”

Readers say this book is honest, refreshing and the real stories from survivors are poignant and inspiring. For those who want more — a community to connect with — Simpson also created a corresponding website for moms battling PPD and/or PPA to come together and be heard. 

The Mother-to-Mother Postpartum Depression Support Book: Real Stories from Women Who Lived Through It and Recovered by Sandra Poulin 

When you’re struggling with a perinatal mood disorder, sometimes the most helpful thing is to know you’re not alone. This book does that just. Chock full of  stories from women who have suffered and recovered from postpartum depression, The Mother-to-Mother Postpartum Depression Support Book feels like a wonderful warm hug from others who have “been there,” along with the knowledge that you’re going to survive and be OK. 

Down Came the Rain by Brooke Shields 

Model and actress Brooke Shields shares her very honest and raw experience about dealing with — and recovering from — postpartum depression after her daughter was born. Shields’s incredibly candid account has paved the way for so many women to feel comfortable sharing their own struggles, as well as seek help.

Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts by Karen Kleiman, M.S.W. 

Many people don’t realize that over 90 percent of new moms have scary, intrusive, unwanted thoughts about their baby, themselves or new motherhood (“What if I accidentally drop the baby?” “What if I hurt the baby?” “I wasn’t cut out to be a mom.”)

The reason many people don’t know this is because the moms who have these thoughts are too terrified and ashamed to share them — terrified that someone will see them as “unfit” and take their baby away, and ashamed because “good moms aren’t supposed to have these thoughts.”

But, as Kleiman explains in this book, this type of thinking doesn’t make you an unfit or terrible mother. It makes you a mother who loves her baby, AND who is struggling with scary thoughts. Both are true — you love your baby, and you’re struggling.  The good news is that there is help, and if you’re one of the 90+ percent, you don’t have to live in fear or shame anymore. 

This book offers tons of support, guidance and hands-on exercises to help new moms challenge and banish their scary thoughts and begin to feel good again.  

Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts by Karen Kleiman, M.S.W. and Amy Wenzel, PhD

This is the 2nd edition of an incredibly important and profound book intended to help parents understand where scary and intrusive thoughts come from and how to overcome them. This edition offers updated information about the science behind intrusive thoughts, as well as guidance for parents about how to seek help (and how to work through the stigma associated with admitting to their scary thoughts). It also describes new treatment approaches, and case descriptions from moms who have battled intrusive thinking, and survived.

Workbooks for Postpartum Depression and Anxiety

The Postpartum Depression Workbook: Strategies to Overcome Negative Thoughts, Calm Stress, and Improve Your Mood by Abigail Burd LCSW PMH-C 

This is an easy-to-follow, practical and super informative postpartum depression workbook. All the tools and strategies are based in cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), which works to help you challenge your negative and destructive thought patterns and behaviors, and replace them with more positive, beneficial and productive thoughts and behavioral patterns instead. 

Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook: Practical Skills to Help You Overcome Anixety, Worry, Panic Attacks, Obsessions, and Compulsions by Pamela S. Wiegartz & Kevin L. Gyoerkoe 

I suffered from pregnancy and postpartum anxiety, and this workbook was a lifesaver for me. Like the previously discussed workbook, The Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook also utilizes CBT to help new moms manage their overwhelming feelings of anxiety and panic. 

The easy-to-do exercises and worksheets are meant to “reduce the frequency and intensity of anxious feelings” during the pregnancy and postpartum period. To be honest, I didn’t realize how much my postpartum anxiety was impeding on my happiness and life until I started working through the exercises in this book. It was a helpful tool (among others) in allowing me to get a handle on my out-of-control panic. Plus, it helped my husband understand more of what I was going through, and how to support me. 

Moods in Motion: A Coloring and Healing Book for Postpartum Moms by Karen Kleiman, MSW and illustrated by Lisa Powell Braun 

Adult coloring books are certainly having their day in the sun, and there’s a good reason for that: the process of coloring can be highly therapeutic, and when we’re drawing, we’re focused and totally in-the-moment. Moods in Motion offers something unique — far different from many of the other postpartum mental health workbooks out there.

Each page showcases a scary or intrusive thought a new mom might have, along with a corresponding image to color; then the following page offers a healing statement, along with a corresponding image illustrating that.  According to the book’s description — and I really love this — “Moods in Motion is more than a coloring book which will ease stress. It is an illustrated guide toward recovery which enables any postpartum woman to actively participate in her healing. As you color your way through the symptom and healing pages, you will envision and internalize suggestions that bring you closer to feeling like yourself again!”

Books For Mom’s Overall Mental Health and Wellbeing 

Strong as a Mother: How to Stay Healthy, Happy, and (Most Importantly) Sane from Pregnancy to Parenthood: The Only Guide to Taking Care of YOU! By Kate Rope

This book is one of the only in the postpartum mental health and parenting book genres I could find that focuses solely on Mom’s wellbeing. This is so important — and I wish there were more books like this — because after women have a baby, so often their physical and emotional needs fall to the backburner. After enduring 9 months of pregnancy followed by childbirth (and the myriad of changes to everything from their bodies, to hormones, to relationships, to roles, to careers and lives), they are expected to quickly recover — get their sh*t together — so they can take care of their baby. But moms need support, care and love too, and this book honors that, and gives new mamas permission to prioritize themselves and their needs. 

You are a F*cking Awesome Mom: So Embrace the Chaos, Get Over the Guilt and Be True to You by Leslie Anne Bruce

If the previous book is like your sweet, even-tempered best friend giving you warm hugs and kind encouragement, this book is your sassy, mouth-like-a-sailor sister telling you exactly how it is. In this hilarious, honest and poignant book, Bruce wholeheartedly acknowledges how crazy, chaotic and disorienting the transition to new motherhood can be, while, with an abundance of wit and authenticity, offers loads of inspiration and encouragement to new mamas. 

Books for Fathers/Partners

Sad Dad: An Exploration of Postnatal Depression in Fathers by Olivia Spencer

Did you know that dads can suffer from postpartum mood and anxiety disorders too? It’s true. This book aims to shed light on the male and/or partner experience of postpartum depression, and includes research and interviews with experts in this field. It’s really one of the only books out there (that I know of) that truly hones in on partner PPD.

The Postpartum Husband: Practical Solutions for Living with Postpartum Depression by Karen Kleiman, M.S.W.

This book isn’t so much for dads struggling with postpartum depression, but more about how they can best support their partner who is suffering. It’s written specifically for the dad/partner, so he/she can be as supportive and responsive as possible. The information is presented in an extremely easy-to-read and concise way — bite-sized chapters with bullet points — making it simple for partners to easily and quickly absorb the pertinent info. 

New parenthood doesn’t come easily for everyone, and if this is you — you’re not alone. It didn’t come easily for me, either (you can read my story here). Whether parenthood isn’t exactly what you thought it would be and you’re struggling to take care of yourself physically, mentally or emotionally postpartum, or you think you might be dealing with a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder, there are resources and help available. 

I hope you can find solace in some of these books for new parents — particularly in knowing that you are not alone, and that there are ways to feel better. In addition to the books listed here, I also encourage you to seek additional support — whether through a postpartum mental health professional, a postpartum mental health support group, a new parent group, etc.

In the meantime, good luck new parents! You will get through this time and be stronger for it. Never forget that you’re a good parent — exactly the parent your child(ren) needs you to be. You got this. 

Happy reading. 

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Our selections from our favorite swimsuit brands for moms below check all the boxes: they’re easy to wear, long-lasting, flattering for diverse figures, and stylish (note: most brands included offer plus sizes).

Happy summer shopping, folks!

Best Women’s Bathing Suits for 2024

One-Piece Swimsuits

Two-Piece Swimsuits

Plus-Size Swimsuits

Accessories

What are your favorite swimwear brands? Tell us in the comments below.

Back to: Maternity Clothes Series

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We’ve created a list of some excellent organizations that are truly making a positive impact in the world right now (and always). When you make a donation to any of the charities below, you can feel confident knowing your funds are going where they’re supposed to, and making a difference in others’ lives. Oh — and it’s tax deductible.

We’ve grouped notable charities by category:

• Relief for Housing Insecurity
• Hunger Relief/Food Insecurity
• Supporting Children
• Mental Health

But first…

Israel/Gaza Conflict

Please consider allocating your dollars to people affected most by this conflict this holiday season. We recommend UNICEF USA, which is helping provide critical resources to vulnerable children and families in this region of the world during this difficult time.

Relief for Housing Insecurity

According to HUD’s Homeless Count, homelessness last year (2022) had reached new highs, with 582,462 people experiencing homelessness.

Four in ten were people in families with children, due in part to the surge in housing and rent prices over the past couple of years. This year, giving to organizations that help combat homelessness and housing insecurity in America matter. You can also volunteer your time to help the cause. *Use Charity Navigator to donate to a homeless cause near you.

Hunger Relief/Food Insecurity

According to Feeding America, more than 34 million people (including 9 million children) in the United States are food-insecure. These are people who may not know where their next meal is coming from. Check out these organizations that help put food onto the tables of those who need it the most:

Supporting Children

The 2023 calendar year has left more children vulnerable to mental health struggles, hunger, child abuse, educational disparities, and so much more. By contributing to any of the following organizations, we can help offer support to children who need it most:

Mental Health

The past three years have been a mental health disaster for so many. One in 5 adults now has a mental health disorder, as does 1 in 6 youth. Suicide is now the 2nd leading cause of death for people under 35. It’s an absolute crisis, especially among teens and young adults. You can help — consider making a donation to one of the organizations below:

If you have a charitable organization you feel passionate about, please share with us in the comments below. This year, we urge you to give back to the community in meaningful ways. It truly is the gift that will keep on giving.

Happy holidays, everyone!

Meg and team at Lucie’s List

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The Untethered Soul Guided Journal: Practices to Journey Beyond Yourself ~$14

A great gift for the soul seeker, this guided journal pairs with Michael Singer’s classic book The Untethered Soul. Don’t worry if you haven’t read it; you’ll still reap the benefits of this journal: living more fully, being more present and gaining a greater understanding of your truest self.

80’s and 90’s Hum the Song Game ~$15

Ready to Get Into the Groove with some Straight Up fun?! Anyone old enough to remember the music from the eighties and nineties will love this game! Try to get your teammates to “name that tune” as you hum nostalgic ditties from a variety of musical 80’s and 90’s categories, such as Pop, TV Themes, Indie and more.

Back to the Roots Sunflower Windowsill Grow Kit ~$25

This kit comes with a 64 oz glass mason jar, organic soil blend and organic sunflower seeds. Back to the Roots has a 100% Guaranteed to Grow promise: If it doesn’t grow, they’ll replace it free of charge. In addition, for each kit purchased, Back to the Roots charitable Grow One, Give One will donate grow kits to elementary schools across the U.S.

Goodr Sunglasses ~$25

Goodr sunglasses are all the rage. They’re super fun and funky, and come in all kinds of colors, patterns and shapes to fit every face. They’re also shatterproof and offer UV protection. Bonus: Goodr sunglasses stay put even when you sweat, so they’re awesome for running and other outdoor workouts.

Bodum Pavina Double Wall Glasses ~$27 for set of 2

For the coffee lover in your life. Everyone knows how annoying it is when your coffee gets cold. These double walled insulated glasses not only keep your beverages warm (or cold, if you’re going for iced drinks… ), but they look super cool, too.

Heated Neck Massager ~$34

This heated back and neck massager has four different deep-kneading Shiatsu massage nodes, as well as two speeds to choose from. Use it at home, take it on-the-go… even in the car! Perfect gift for those who need a little relaxation and a way to soothe sore muscles (ahem… all of us!)

Le Creuset Stoneware Mini Round Cocotte ~$32

These brightly colored mini cocottes, great for baking, serving and storing, are perfect for serving individual portions and sharable side dishes. An awesome gift for all the chefs in your life… and maybe for your own kitchen, too!

Personalized Cutting Board ~$varies

Charcuterie, anyone? These personalized cheeseboards are unique and beautifully handcrafted out of Acacia wood. When not in use, they also make a lovely home decoration.

Just Breathe Eucalyptus Spa Gift Set ~$40

The gift of relaxation… which everyone, everyone, everyone needs right now. Just plant the self-watering eucalyptus seeds in the bamboo pot, and in a few weeks, you can use the fragrant leaves, along with the kit’s botanical bath salts and natural jute body scrubber, for a relaxing at-home spa experience.  

Heirloom Video Book ~$49

For the sentimental folks out there, this personalized digital greeting card is the perfect gift. Choose from a variety of pre-made hardcover options; then load 10 minutes of a video and/or photos to this video player, which features a 5” HD screen with a speaker. No WiFi or tech needed, recipients just open the book which plays the video from you to them. Comes with a rechargeable battery.

Feeling fancy? Take a peek at our Luxury Gift Guide — perfect for those with the most expensive taste. You can also browse our Love List archives — each one is full of our very favorite things!

See also!

Holiday Gift Guides 2023

• Gift Ideas for Babies 2023
• Gifts Ideas for Toddlers and Preschoolers 2023
• Gift Guide for Twins 2023
• Gift Ideas for Her 2023
• Gift Ideas for Him 2023
• Best Gifts Under $50 2023
• Best Luxurious Gifts 2023
• Gifts that Give Back 2023
• Favorite Holiday Books for Kids

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Maya Brenner Personalized Jewelry ~ $varies

Nothing sweeter than a necklace made just for you. You can use a combination of letters, birth stones, and charms to make a piece of jewelry as unique as you. Maya Brenner’s brand uses only pure metals, like solid 14K gold.

Brava Smart Oven ~ $1,395

A smart cooking device that lets you cook steak, potatoes and broccoli all at once (aka the perfect steak dinner made in less than 18 minutes)? Yes please! Food52 called the Brava “a grown-up, super decked-out version of an Easy Baked oven.”

Rebag, Designer Bags ~ $varies

There’s just something so special about a handpicked vintage designer bag — it’s unique and feels so much more personal than something found at the mall. Plus, buying secondhand fashion is much better for the environment.

Meta VR Headset ~ $399

From first-person gaming to workouts to meditation sessions, this virtual reality headset makes it easy to escape and have some fun. Bonus points for easy setup and the extensive library on the Oculus app.

Apple Watch Series 9 ~ $399

The new Apple Watch boasts a few new health features, like sleep tracker, workout customization and even sensors that detect if you get into a car crash to call emergency help. We love how chic it looks, too.

Breville One-Touch Tea Maker ~ $299

A gift for tea drinkers: a machine that makes your tea to your liking. With this Breville Machine, you get to customize the temperature and brewing strength!

Vinebox 24 Nights of Wine ~ $199

Beautiful packaging and 24 different wines — this wine testing box is the perfect gift for the wine lovers in your life.

Le Creuset Cooking Set ~ $1,400

We don’t know anyone who wouldn’t love to unwrap a box full of Le Creuset goodies. This cookware set will last a lifetime (and more).

Dyson Airwrap ~ $480

The Rolls Royce of hair styling tool, the Dyson airwrap dries and styles your hair at the same time. It comes with a travel case for easy transport.

Brooklinen Linen Set ~ $575

Nothing beats a night of luxurious sleep. This set comes with a fitted sheet, two pillow cases and a duvet cover.

Larq Water Bottle ~ $100

This water bottle isn’t just beautiful and minimalist. It’s also self-cleaning and purifying.

TheraFace mask ~ $600

Give the gift of the ultimate glow up with Therabody’s new TheraFace Mask! With three types of LED light therapy — red, infrared and blue — plus gentle vibration for a soothing facial, this is the skincare device everyone needs on their wishlists.

Technvirom Moccamaster ~ $360

For the home brewers and coffee enthusiasts in your life, the Moccamaster has been dubbed the “best drip coffee maker of all time.”

Pascal Shirley Print ~ $237

Can’t travel to your happy place this year? Stare at it from the comfort of your own home. These prints are your (one-way?) ticket to an instant vacation.

Ready to splurge? Let us know what you’re getting in the comments below.

If you want your holiday shopping to make a positive impact in the world, check out Gifts that Give Back.

See also!

Holiday Gift Guides 2020

• Gift Ideas for Babies 2020
• Gifts Ideas for Toddlers and Preschoolers 2020
• Gift Guide for Twins 2020
• Gift Ideas for Her 2020
• Gift Ideas for Him 2020
• Best Gifts Under $50 2020
• Best Luxurious Gifts 2020
• Gifts that Give Back 2020
• Favorite Holiday Books for Kids

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Bombas Gripper Slipper ~$48

These everyday slips are made with an ultra-warm brushed lining, special grips on the outside designed to help prevent slips, plus a separate travel bag that makes packing a breeze.. I love one reviewer’s description: They’re the bombas. (Recommend to size up for breathable fitting.)
*With every purchase, Bombas donates a pair of socks to those in need.

Athleta Excursion Waistbag ~$88

This sporty-chic rendition of the fanny pack is roomy enough for moms who have more than just a phone, wallet, and keys to carry around — and there are lots of separate compartments/spaces on the interior so everything isn’t jumbled together (and hard to find). We are *loving* the fanny pack renaissance!

Nuuly Gift Subscription ~$98/month

The clothing rental company Nuuly features retro-chic companies like Anthropologie and Urban Outfitters — give a one month subscription to the fashionista in your life. (See the FAQ page for “how it works” here.)

Kiehl’s Ultimate Strength Hand Salve ~$18

Nice hand cream is one of those things that’s wonderful to have but now one wants to actually buy… this beloved cream from Caudalie turns even the driest, chapped hands to butter (and it dries pretty quickly, so it doesn’t leave you with that greasy feeling for hours…). And the smell… is diVINE!

Smartwool Isto Hand Warmers ~$35

These fingerless gloves are more like fingerless mittens (they’re open, with no individual fingers), which are way more functional for anything that demands finger dexterity (All Mom Things). They’re super warm while still being breathable enough for indoor wear too.

Fiorella Champagne Flutes ~$64 (set of 4)

This gorgeous gold-laced glassware collection is fancy, classy, and holds up very well over time (surprisingly so, actually). *Note that the glass sizes are a bit bigger than standard — this bothers some people…

Talking Tables Host Your Own Zodiac Night Game ~$45

This astrology board game is a hoot — a combination of classic board game competition, “know thyself” questions, and astrological intel, it’s a whimsical and fun experience to play. Kind of like The Game of Life meets the 21st century meets the Middle Ages, LOL.

Rosie Jane Fragrance Discovery Set ~$25

This set comes with seven eau de parfum sprays that are clean, light, and ethereal. A fun gift for an indecisive beauty enthusiast! (Also available at Anthropologie.)

Dipwell Nail Starter Kit ~$65

This at-home DIY acrylic nail kit has easy-to-follow instructions and comes in all kinds of color schemes. Application takes ~45 minutes and the results last about 10 days or so. *Note the nails may pop off after 10-12 days, but some prefer this to going to a salon for removal.

Beyond Yoga Gear ~ $varies

Any thing from Beyond Yoga is high quality and buttery soft — perfect for a workout or a day at home running around with little ones.

Kindle Paperwhite ~$140+

It’s not a tablet. It’s not a phone. It’s just a reader. An awesome reader. That’s all it does. No distractions. And for that, we love it.

Herbs starter set ~$80

There is something so refreshing and uplifting about having greenery in your space. Better yet if it’s something you can use in the kitchen. We love this set from William-Sonoma to grow herbs.

A Classy Ballpoint Pen ~$36

This pretty and elegant brut rose pen is a delight to write with and a small luxury for anyone who’s still on the paper train ().

What’s on your holiday shopping list, this year? Tell us in the comments and check out our gift guide for the dads (really, all the men) in your life, gifts under $50, and luxury splurges.

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If this is you (as it’s me), I urge you to check out an app I recently discovered: MamaZen. It was created by husband-and-wife team Irin and Jake Rubin (MA, CHT) after Irin suffered a near breakdown in 2017 due to the stresses of motherhood. She asked Jake, an expert in Mindfulness Meditation and a Board Certified Hypnotherapist, to help her as he helps his clients. He did, and from his efforts, MamaZen was born. 

How it Works

Once you download the MamaZen app, you will first select the goals you want to work on, and from that, the app will curate and show you the sections that most fit your needs (of course you can listen to any session at any time — not just the ones highlighted for you).

From there, you’ll get access to a variety of 5-15 minute sessions all conducted by Jake, that use hypnotherapy, meditation and mindfulness to help reduce the stress, overwhelm, guilt, impatience, fatigue, burnout, negative feelings, etc. associated with parenthood (FYI: though this app is geared towards moms, there is a section for dads called Dad’s Zone. In it, there are 6 sessions to choose from, ranging from learning how to slow down and enjoy fatherhood, to reducing anger, yelling and impatience, and being more present with your kids). 

You can also search for sessions based on your children’s ages, beginning with pregnancy all the way through grade school-aged children (5-12 years old). For instance, in the newborn library, you’ll find sessions on managing the hormonal postpartum roller coaster, recovering from a C-section, feeling good taking “me” time, staying calm when the baby cries, and so much more. Some examples of sessions you’ll find in the toddler and preschool library include handling a child who is strong-willed (I’ll be listening to this next!), having patience with homeschooling (timely), tantrums, never-ending bedtime routines, and more. 

Many of these same sessions exist in the grade school section as well, with the addition of topics like setting boundaries, learning how to discipline effectively, feeling more empathy for your child, and being there for your child when he or she feels misunderstood, etc. 

Think of this app as a life coach, for parents! 

When you don’t have a ton of time (what parent does?!), you can listen to 7-Minute Emergency Sessions, which cover topics like letting go of anger, how to release stress and anxiety, and ways to feel happier now. I escaped to my car and listened to one of these last weekend during a three-way tantrum between my children — it was a far better alternative than my usual method of screaming at everyone in my house. Who feels me? 

What You Can Expect

Jake starts his sessions with guided hypnosis, encouraging you to find a comfortable spot, take deep breaths, close your eyes, and allow yourself to enter a calm, meditative state. From there, he leads you through the session, using an abundance of imagery, positive affirmations and heartfelt encouragement. You can choose whether you want to be awake or asleep at the end of the session (I’ve only ever chosen “awake,” but if I were doing this right before bed, I would choose “asleep”). It may feel hokey at first, but even if you don’t believe in hypnosis or meditation, simply breathing deeply and listening to Jake’s words will help you feel more relaxed and confident. 

Cost

The app is $5.75/mo with an annual subscription of $68.99. Get it on Google Play or the Apple App Store. 

My Verdict

I’ve been using MamaZen for a week now. I was skeptical at first (I’m not much of a meditator or a fan of hypnosis… ), but I can already see a difference in the way I parent and handle parenting situations that used to trigger me before. In short: it’s working for me.

I’m now remaining much calmer when my kids are fighting loudly with one another (a serious anxiety trigger for me); I’m not losing my patience as quickly or joining in their chaos like I used to; and I’m giving myself permission to step away when I need to (i.e. the car break) to take 15-minutes of calm and peace for myself. I believe the reason it’s working so well for me is because Jake’s words speak directly to me as a mother — he cuts right to the heart of things, assuring me that I’m a good mom and that I matter. 

Confession: I actually started crying while listening to the sessions on reducing mom guilt and increasing my confidence as a mom… they truly spoke to me, and I guess I really needed to hear that I am the mom my kids need (even when I don’t feel like it), I am enough, and I’m doing the very best I can. What parent doesn’t need to be reminded of these things from time to time? 

Downside

The only downside I see to this app is the price — it seems like a hefty amount to pay each month, especially if you’re not using it on the regular. Though there are shorter sessions, it still takes time and effort to step away to a quiet place, turn on a session, and truly relax and get the most out of it. That said, parents are worth it — and it’s important to take time for self-care. 

Bottom Line

I hope they keep adding new sessions — there are quite a few already, but I can tell I’ll be moving through them swiftly.

I know it can be hard to take time away from your kids to take care of yourself… but if you don’t, you’ll burn out. Plain and simple. MamaZen can be another tool in your personal self-care kit — something you can turn to when you need to recharge and find some peace. I, for one, am grateful that an app like this exists, and I really think it will help me stay more present with my kids, enjoy motherhood more and feel a greater sense of calm and confidence in my role as a mom. 

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