Comments on: The Problem with the Mommy Wine Culture

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 17:38:39 +0000

In reply to Chelsea. Chelsea - I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with you 100%. "Mothers need real support." <-- this is where everything breaks down. Best to you -- Meg

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 17:29:08 +0000

In reply to Scarlett. absolutely

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 17:28:36 +0000

In reply to KJ. KJ -- I agree with you 100%

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 17:24:15 +0000

In reply to Catherine. Thank you, Catherine. I think it does speak to the seasons of life. Thanks for your kind words.

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 17:22:56 +0000

In reply to Gigi.

Ugh Gigi — that sounds rough. It might help to hear that – at 1 and 3 – they are at their most needy right now, and it truly does get easier – over time. Keep up the good work and hang in there — Meg

By: Meg Collins

Meg Collins — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 17:20:26 +0000

In reply to Meg. Thanks from one Meg to another ;-)

By: Melissa Colbeck

Melissa Colbeck — Thu, 19 Mar 2020 20:53:50 +0000

I was brought to tears thinking about your private struggle Laura. You’re a strong woman. I hope others are able to be as strong. Thank you for telling your story.

By: Katy

Katy — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 05:51:39 +0000

In reply to Meg Collins. Thank you very much for this article! I have felt for a long time that our culture in general has a problematic relationship with alcohol lately. I feel like people are just recently beginning to come around on it. I have friends who have stopped drinking altogether, and one who I was getting worried about who has decided lately to cut back. I’ve seen ads for mixed nonalcoholic drinks and mixers which also gives me hope. I’m happy to see others embracing the idea that alcohol doesn’t have to be the thing that makes you fun, nor the medicine that helps you cope with things that were always going to be hard anyway.

By: Meg

Meg — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 02:39:57 +0000

Wow, not only can I come to Lucie’s List for resources on gear and to know I’m not crazy when my boys are doing something developmentally appropriate (and infuriating), but now I can come for resources to help with sober motherhood. I was sober over a decade before becoming a mom. I know who I am without a drink, yet constantly see drinking as a coping mechanism for motherhood. Bravo for highlighting this issue and providing the resources we trust you to give us. Thank you.

By: Gigi

Gigi — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 02:30:08 +0000

I’m actually floored at reading this and wonder how these moms actually function. As a mom of two little boys 3 & 1, I’m the exact opposite in that I never drink, and not because I don’t want to, but because I don’t have the energy to do it. I wake up exhausted every morning and go to bed exhausted every night. I barely make it through my day chasing my boys around, dealing with all the crying, sleep battles, nursing, and food fighting. I barley get to eat or drink enough of anything because my hands are always full. The idea that I would even have the time to find a corkscrew and open a bottle of wine is beyond me (I can’t sneak a cookie in my mouth without my toddler screaming at me). Then the thought of having a hangover while dealing with my children would make the day even more unbearable.

All this said, the loneliness and isolation is insane and I get why women drink. I have no friends with kids, all my friends sleep in, brunch, meet up at 9pm on weeknights and live on a complete opposite schedule as me. I NEVER see them anymore and they don’t get why I can’t meet up for dinner at 9pm (I have to be up at 6a on a sunday and physically active all day, no rest for the weary). If I want to leave the house, I can only do it between 8am and 9:30am, they would never meet me for breakfast at such an “ungodly” hour. The rest of my day I’m a prisoner at home because I have one child napping or about to nap between 10a-5p so I am trying to keep the non-napping child entertained while the other sleeps. Can’t talk on the phone, can’t watch tv, can’t drink because my kids NEVER.STOP.MOVING.